When two people decide to part ways, they are only looking to separate their relationship. However, when parents separate, it's inevitable that the family splits and the family dynamic changes. In a fairytale world, parents would sit down and develop a plan that is conducive to the needs of everyone involved, but this isn't always the case. When the courts must get involved in this decision, it is typically done in the form of a custody hearing. If you're facing this milestone, here are some tips to help you prepare.
It's often said that the view is much clearer miles away than it is right in front of you. For this reason, it's usually easier to recognize potential flaws you feel your ex-possesses rather than your own. However, in order to ensure you're prepared for the custody hearing, it's a good idea to re-examine yourself to highlight any areas where you can make improvements.
For instance, if you're seeking full custody, but you generally work 50 or more hours a week, it will be hard to convince the courts that you can spend a sufficient amount of time with your children with your existing schedule. In this instance, you'd need to adjust your work schedule. Take the time to highlight and correct any potential hiccups before you head to court.
Leave Your Emotions at Home
As a parent, you love your child more than anything. So, when you feel like someone else is trying to take your child away from you, it's easy to get emotional. However, the courtroom isn't the place to put these emotions on display. The focus and goal of the court is to ensure the child is being placed in the best possible situation for their growth and development.
If one parent is combative or unruly, this could serve as a red flag to the judge. If the judge believes that the parent will create a volatile environment for the child, that parent likely won't receive the custody rights they are seeking. Do your best to remain calm and leave your emotions outside; remember, it's all about your children.
A child custody hearing is often a very stressful experience. Not only is going to court an uncomfortable experience for most people, but the idea of having your access to your children on the line can be overwhelming. Make sure you're prepared and if you need assistance, don't hesitate to reach out to an attorney.